முன்பின் தெரியாதவர் போல, பொதுவாக பார்த்தப் பேசுவது காதலர்களிடம் இருக்கும் குணந்தான்.

காதலர்களுக்கு ஓர் இயல்பு உண்டு; அதாவது, அவர்கள் பொது இடத்தில் ஒருவரையொருவர் அந்நியரைப் பார்ப்பதுபோலப் பார்த்துக்கொள்வர்

புறத்தே அயலார்போல் அன்பில்லாத பொது நோக்கம் கொண்டு பார்த்தல், அகத்தே காதல் கொண்டவரிடம் உள்ள இயல்பாகும்.

Both the lovers are capable of looking at each other in an ordinary way, as if they were perfect strangers

This verse from the Thirukural talks about an intriguing behaviour observed among lovers. It suggests that when lovers meet in public, they often pretend to be mere acquaintances or strangers, displaying an aloofness that belies the intense affection they have for each other. The verse implies that this is not due to any lack of love, but rather a mannerism borne out of respect for societal norms or discretion. The lovers are capable of looking at each other as if they were perfect strangers, even though their hearts may be brimming with affection and longing. It also reflects a deeper understanding of love that goes beyond physicality or overt expressions. The lovers communicate through their eyes, which are windows to their souls. They understand each other's feelings and emotions without the need for words or actions. This verse thus brings out the subtlety and depth of love, where what is left unsaid often holds more meaning than what is expressed openly. In a broader context, this verse teaches us about self-control, restraint, and the ability to separate personal feelings from public behaviour. It advises us to navigate our relationships with wisdom, respecting the boundaries set by society and circumstance.